The challenge of having two children, I have figured out, is that at all times, either one or both has a need, so you never really have a break. Either both need something RIGHT NOW, or you get one settled and then the other one needs something. It's an endless cycle. The good news is, I can see that it will (should) get easier as each child gets older, especially once Noah can sit up or go in an exersaucer.
Potty training
At this point we've pretty much abandoned potty training for the moment, because there's no way I'm putting an actively potty training toddler in a car for a long road trip. Far too risky. I will say that he's been far more successful with grandmas and at the church nursery than with me. With me, he'll just pee in his diaper, but apparently in other places he'll ask to go potty rather than pee in his diaper. Why, I have no idea. He still refuses to poop on the potty for anyone. I figure I'll try again in late October after vacation.
Preparing for Vacation
Speaking of, we're attempting a pretty major road trip in two weeks to go see my brother in Virginia and stop at a few places along the way. I think I have a pretty good packing system figured out that involves lots of plastic bins and labeling. I think that the best way to do things is to break the driving up into segments with fun stops along the way, but Jason thinks that plowing through would be better. I guess we'll find out soon enough!!
Monday, September 26, 2011
Sunday, September 11, 2011
Remember
I feel like I
should at least write SOMETHING about the 10th anniversary of 9/11. I have not
much felt like thinking about or commemorating the anniversary. The
only mainstream media coverage I've tolerated, other than watching a little of
the original media footage from that day (As it Happened) is NPR's, because
they took a really different approach focusing on 9/11's effects on arts and
culture. For me, thinking back, the event created in me a feeling of
"alive-ness" that I'd never experienced before, of thankfulness for
the beautiful clear September days we had that year, for family, for friends,
for love, for all that the world could offer me and all that was good in the
world. But even more so, a feeling of interconnectedness and synchronicity. Over
time, through the banalities of life, intense feelings like this tend to ebb
away. I went back through my computer files to see if I could put myself back
to that time in my life.
I found the
lyrics to "Turn, Turn, Turn" by the Byrds/originally from
Ecclesiastes. Incidentally I just saw on Wikipedia that Rudy Giuliani read
these same words today as part of the remembrance ceremony, so I guess they're
poignant to more people than just me.
To
every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A
time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, a time to reap that which
is planted;
A
time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A
time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A
time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to
embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A
time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A
time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A
time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
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I
found this piece, unfortunately without an attribution, though I could probably
find one if I tried:
THE GEOGRAPHY OF HOPE The
seasonal cycles of the natural world go on, undeterred by the havoc around
them.
For proof of nature’s healing power one need only read accounts of how Americans instinctively flocked to urban gardens, mountain overlooks, forested trails and ocean shores in the wake of the terrorist attacks, seeking refuge from an anguish that was all consuming. In those places they found the solace and spiritual renewal that only nature can bring. The novelist Wallace Stegner wrote that as human beings we need wild places available to us as a way of reassuring ourselves of our sanity as creatures. Calling this sense of connection to the natural world part of the “geography of hope,” Stegner evoked the eternal rhythms of which we are all a part.
Exposure to the natural world has been shown to be therapeutic by alleviating stress and promoting health. The medical community has long known about the healing power of nature, which is why healing gardens are cropping up in medical centers across the country. Healthcare providers understand that flowers, trees and running water can create an oasis for those facing the trauma of a debilitating disease or the loss of a loved one.
As Americans look for spiritual renewal, emotional healing, or time to reflect on how our country will rebound from this national tragedy, many are turning to Mother Nature. Wildlife and wild places — whether they are found in the mesas of the West, the grasslands of the Midwest, the Alleghenies or Adirondacks of the East, or the park down the street — are part of our strength as a nation, an indomitable part of our American heritage that is impervious to those who attempt to destroy our resolve.
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I also found a journal I kept beginning on the 11th and
continuing into the days immediately following, but it's intensely personal and
I'd rather not share that here. Just suffice to say that I'm so glad I kept my
own commemoration of that day that I can always turn back to in order to
remember.
Today at church the service (thankfully, in my opinion) was
not overtly 9/11. We had a water service where everyone was asked to bring
water that was meaningful to them in some way, from summer travels, etc. Then
we came up in groups as East (renewal, sunrise), South (power, strength), West
(a time of harvest or endings), and North (restfulness, self-care, wisdom). All
of the water went into a collective bowl along with some water from last year's
service and an empty bottle poured to show solidarity with those in the world
who don't have access to safe clean water. We also had paper raindrops on which
we wrote a few words and then posted on big sheets of paper.
I went with East and "new beginnings" though
"birth and rebirth" might have been slightly more poetic. I could
have easily gone up for the other three directions too. The meditation was to
imagine ourselves as water- maybe a stream, an ocean, rain or teardrops but
ultimately cycling through all of these forms. North bleeds into East, East into
South, South into West, and West back into North. There is a
time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to reap that
which is planted. All
things are interconnected. Remember and be thankful for the fragile world that
we live in and our place in it.
CEO to CFO (Chief Family Officer)
I got this quote in my google reader yesterday and it seemed apropos:
“Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love.”
Mildred B. Vermont
I would come home stressed, angry, worried about the 25 or so families I was responsible for, etc. The commute was almost an hour each way (more if I had to go pick up Nathan). It just never ended. The only vacations I truly enjoyed were ones where we went on a cruise and I didn't have cell or email access. Yes, the money was great, but the "price" I paid was great as well.
I give all the above information to say that despite my fears about being a "stay at home mom," fears about my budget, and fears of boredom, I will be spending the next 8 months without a "real job." I'll be pursuing consulting to a limited extent so that I can still feel productive, like I'm helping others, and make a bit of money on the side, but my primary job will be caring for my family. And here's the crazy thing: I'm reaping the benefits already! Not only do I feel 10 pounds lighter, but Jason has noticeably responded already (shhhh, this is a massive secret!)- He's actually holding my hand, being very affectionate, thoughtful, etc. The countless fights over his lack of affection towards me- evaporated. How ironic!
I still plan to attend nursing school in May, the beginning of a long term shift to family first (I/we had no intent of me staying home indefinitely, the timing just worked out because I had planned to leave my job for school anyways). So stay tuned for a different sort of blog, as I deal with new and different kinds of challenges! :)
Sunday, September 4, 2011
3 (almost 4) weeks
My google calendar tasks list has gone from looking something like this:
- finish Bank of America grant app
- write Board email
- update resident handbook
to looking more like this:
- laundry
- dishes
- update mint.com
This is neither a positive nor a negative, just a stark contrast between my two lives. At this point in Nathan's life (3 weeks), I was headed back to the office a few days a week. Now, I'm just barely a third of the way through my planned maternity leave!
Nathan's been pretty interested in the whole breastfeeding process, including pumping (mommy's milk machine, he calls it), and so yesterday I taught him that making milk for baby Noah is mommy's special superpower. Maybe not 100% aboveboard, but I couldn't resist!
We continue to do battle over pooping on the potty. Yesterday, when Nathan told me he had to go, I tried to take a different (ok, slightly callous) approach. I stripped off his shorts and diaper and took him to the bathroom. Where he cried and screamed and didn't go for 20 minutes. I promised him ANYTHING he wanted (his requests were to go to the midwife's office and to the hospital, how weird is that??) but he still wouldn't go. I finally relented and gave him a diaper, and he went in that. Sigh. We are getting close to the days where we're just going to hang out in the backyard with no diaper all day until he gets the hang of it. As soon as my physical strength, intestinal fortitude, and the weather allow...
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